Work From Home

Absent a contract or collective bargaining agreement, that can happen in Ohio and 49 other states.

Also, this has nothing to do with right-to-work, which only affects whether or not you’re required to join a union to hold a job.

This might seem like a joke to you guys, but think about it.

Kobe Bryant: Generally speaking, he most likely had a great childhood. Was a star athlete during his high school years. Won multiple championships with the Laker organization while being in the spotlight. Married a beautiful and gorgeous woman. Earned numerous awards and accolades for his basketball skills and talent. King of Los Angeles and has plenty of money from his endorsements and basketball contracts. However, he was accused of rape and cheating on his wife (in which the cheating was true). Not so sure about the rape, but his image was torn down because of it. Fortunately, he just recently won an NBA championship and NBA finals MVP award.

Mike Tyson: From what I’ve read and heard about, his childhood seemed very brutal and dark. Been arrested many times. Was made fun of for his "lisp" voice and would express extreme anger/rage because of it. Had a natural talent for the sport of Boxing. Had a great start into his boxing career by knocking out opponents in the first round and having an undefeated record at a young age. Then his mentor/father figure, Cus passes away. Became the youngest heavyweight champion of all time. He married Robin Givens, but seemed like a golddigger. Was charged with rape and went to prison for it (unlike Kobe). Earned nearly 300,000,000 from various endorsements and fights but squandered nearly all of it. His image is perceived as a comical relief as the man who "eat ears." Fortunately, he recently trimmed off some weight and looks thinner than his pot belly physique.

Truly, I think most people would want to live Kobe Bryant’s life. However, my counter-argument for that is that I think Tyson is humble and lives life for what it is. According to The View, he lives paycheck to paycheck but he seems very happy. Sure, his life experiences must suck and would drain out a man, but I’m sure it made him a very strong man spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally. He lost his finances, image, and success to the non-boxing world, but he seems very optimistic and just living life. In the other side of things, Kobe doesn’t seem like a humble person. He seems like a person who would be destroyed internally if he lost his finances, image, etc. But at the same time, this is based on assumption because I don’t know him. So who would you choose?

I would rather be Shaq. Just to be 7 feet tall.

I have spent a lot of my life trying to be a "Nice" person, and I guess thinking that would "earn" something for me.

I spend a lot of time being kind and giving energy to other people — taking them on their terms, instead of on my terms (and probably not even knowing what my terms are).

I think I get taken advantage of a lot, and get made into a victim by people who may not even realize they are doing it (and of course some who do). Further, I’m pretty sure I "willingly" take on the victim role and "teach" people to treat me this way.

Well, I’m pretty fed up with it. I’m tired of "handling" my Dad’s volatility so that we have peaceful conversations, while neglecting my own needs.
I’m tired of friending people for no real reason other than not to hurt their feelings or because of some sick craving I have for attention from anybody, no matter how much it may not be super healthy.
I’m tired of trying to be tolerant, and PC, and accepting of other people’s flaws and eccentricities when I am rarely afforded the same in return.

Recently I posted something very grave on my facebook wall about a very ill parent, and the LACK of response was stunning. So why are these people on my facebook??? At this point, if you don’t have the time, courtesy, or interest to look at my infrequent posts, and comment on something so grave, then I don’t want to spend energy on you anymore.

I’m already super lonely and pretty much an outcast, so I don’t think I will be losing much by:
deciding to live life on MY TERMS now. Telling people what I really think. Calling out poor behavior. Taking up for myself and not accepting less, even if it may seem counterintuitive right now.

The thing is, I have years and years of hurt feelings and instances of mistreatment buried in my psyche. How do I learn to let this anger out slowly so that I don’t break everything in my house? How do I learn to forgive people who don’t deserve forgiveness? How do I learn to teach people to treat me with respect when I don’t even know? How do I learn healthy peer behavior coming from a long history of dysfunction?

It sounds to me, from the personality traits you are describing and the years and years of hurt feelings and you efforts to appease a volatile father that you might well be an ACON (Adult Child of a Narcissistic Parent.)

There is a list of Narcissistic Traits at this link:

http://www.cosmicwalk.co.za/narcissistic-traits.html#

It might be an idea to see how many of these traits fit to dear old dad.

Parents with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) groom their children to put their (the parent’s) needs first and the child’s own needs last. This trait of putting ones own needs last goes on into other relationships, and into adulthood so ACON’s are easily re victimized by bosses, ‘friends’ and relationship partners. ACONs also have issues with saying ‘No’ and drawing clear personal boundaries.

You should indeed be living life on your terms. It sounds as if you have done far too much of living it on other peoples’ terms.

I would suggest that if you haven’t already done so you have counselling related to self esteem and boundary issues.

If you think your father has NPD get support. There is a peer support group for Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents on the Yahoo Boards. I would also suggest reading the blog ‘Narcissists Suck’ which you can find with a Google. Both places will have advice on self help.

You do sound like an ACON to me (I am one, my father has NPD) and ACONs have had so little healthy attention from their parents in their formative years that they do indeed crave attention from anyone, and often get it in the wrong ways and get taken advantage of. We are also very slow to recognize, and very tolerant of bad behaviour in others, having grown up with non stop bad behaviour in our parents.

I thought it worth mentioning this to you in case it applies to you. I rather suspect it might.

Best wishes

Michael

First of all.. i warn you that its a long story and also that im not native speaker so my story might sound weird or without sense, in that case i apologize!! …

Ok here’s how everything started….

A year and 5 months ago i met this awesome guy, we got along pretty easily, like if we knew each other from long time the only problem was that he was "married", partnered for 6 yrs if im not wrong! but the situation between them wasn’t the best… days after we met they broke up and we started a relationship but there was a lil problem! he lives 60 miles away, and was working full time job, I on the contrary was working full time and going to college part time at night!,so he knew i wasnt going to be able to be with him as much as we would love to! but he didnt mind at that time. time passed, we were meeting like twice or once a month mostly due my lack of free time, but we kept in contact by phone and texts i mean we text each other all days for the entire time of our relationship and even talked every single night ( well most of them, cause some times we had some discussions and we didnt talk for few days) but most of the times we were happy, at least I think we were, but today we had a fight in which i overreacted. I started the fight because he didnt want to cuddle, i mean, Friday night we didnt had any sex…. every time i wanted to start something he said the room was hot n that he needed space, so finally i gave up so we went to sleep, the next morning we were watching tv at the living room, while i was trying to cuddle with him, kissing him, getting on top of him he told me that we cannot be always been kissing!… i mean come on! that was the first morning we spent together in months, I didn’t went to work because i wanted to spend some time with him but according to him he just wanted to chill… so the day passed i drove back to my place and he texted me that he was sorry and felt like sh*t, but suddenly he opened himself and "texted" me;" im Miserable… work isnt fun anymore and that was all i had besides you I think about my old life a lot even though it wasnt that great…But i cant have it back even if it was possible… i dont know what to do" …. he claimed to be working a lot and and not traveling a lot as he used to do with his ex… i feel like sh*t cause i know work isnt fun, but again i cant take any vacations because i lived paycheck to paycheck i mean im not earning as much as he does, we are complete financial opposites… and also because i dont have vacations, I take classes all year long due im not a full time student im trying to take the most advantage of time as i can! so i cannot take any vacations until i graduate… he knew that… i explained how my life was and he didnt mind! … now its bothering him that we cannot travel anywhere! so i broke up with him few hrs ago! and i feel like sh*t.. i do really love him but i believe he deserved someone who can be with him anytime… not a guy like me who barely have time for myself … so what should i do!? give up my school and job to live with him and be happy for a few months? or forget about him and concentrate on my school?…

The problem is because you two don’t try to make compromises with each other. He wants to travel, you can’t. You want to cuddle, he resists because of not having able to do what he loves to do. If only you could take off a day or two to go somewhere nearby with him to at least give him that feeling of traveling. If only he tries to put himself in your shoes and understand your situation, he would know how you feel. A relationship is essentially compromises. Without compromises between the two, a lot of stuff would not work out. You’ve tried your best to take out time to be with him but things just didn’t work out. I think your decision to break up is a right choice as of the moment. You are too busy with your life to keep a 60 miles relationship going. If that relationship was to be close by, I would have recommended to try work things out the second time but eh, it’s too far. Let this one go and just concentrate on your life for now, and hopefully in the next relationship, things will be better since you’ve just learned a lesson.

Once a man is divorced, should he let his ex remain homeless? (She was evicted).?
1. I make over 100K working very hard…she flat out told me that it wasn’t enough.

2. I came to this country and worked here for two years all the while paying for our home there and what would be our new home here, all the while with two pairs of socks and boxers for myself, working overtime and studying at university and paying for her education at the same time, and…she couldn’t talk to me even 15 minutes on Sunday’s when I had time to call…I was also faithfull the entire time.

3. When she comes here with my daughter, she tells me that the home I got was too old.

4. I had stayed in that marriage the entire time because I love my daughter so much, that I didn’t want to take her mommy away from her (I’m smart and could have done it) but was trying to do the right thing by both of them.

5. I finally made up my mind to divorce and offered 50% custody and she told me that I would be the one visiting and that she wanted alimony…she has never payed for, worked or needed anything while I was with her.

Now this woman who wanted to take my little girl from me, take the money that I have earned and didn’t even have 15 minutes a week to spend on the phone with her faithful husband who was in here in this country at her request wants me to help her with money because she is sleeping in her car…

What would you do? I now completely see her as an opponent and am utterly without pity…women? men? What should I do?

and when I stated the 50% about custody, she wanted "full" custody and that I could see her on weekends.

I documented everything for the course of a year and won full custody, I also saw too it that she developed immigration issues by refusing to pay for temporary to permanent resident status $1410.00.

And thank you because I really am vexed about this and I will let you decide. It is what is fair. She is her mother, but I harbour no pity for her any longer other than she gave me my little girl who is to me, the most wonderful thing that I have ever found in this world. Again, I’m sorry to trouble you with my problems.

Lindernator, first off, it’s my life, I’m living it and it’s real. Don’t buy it? I don’t care.

Read my posts? Really? You and how many thousands of other people?

Men vs Women posts? And who wouldn’t after being treated this way? They’re actually for fairness posts, but you would describe them that way…I’ve already seen what she tried to do to me and if you think I’m bitter, lady, I haven’t even begun.

No-one is that hatefull and onesided? Really, just like those pedophile rapist murdering bastards that snuggle up to children with all the charm of a guilded lily?

Why get engaged? I loved her so much that in Russia we have closed cities and areas that are guarded with mines and dogs and I told her that I would walk across if that is what I had to do to be with her. You have no f**king idea how much I loved her, only to be thought of as a means to a better life. Nothing more than a paycheck…trash, that is what I meant to her, and if you think for one second that after…

loving her that much and working that hard and sacrificing two years of not being with my little girl (who slept with on my chest, every night for the first two months after she was born), just to come to this f**king country at her behest, to "make more money over there than you will here", and I’m not a little bitter…you have nooooo idea.

I hope that I prevent men AND women from suffering like this…laying on my f**king floor wanting to cry and die, but having to remain strong for my darling Katya….. I don’t have the words…think whatever the f**k you want.

The best thing that a man can do for his child is to love her mother. Show her some compassion without letting her take advantage of you. Give her a place to stay. The compassion you show her will teach your daughter things that she can never learn in books.

You are hurting your daughter by being so bitter towards her mother. the day will come when your daughter realizes the anger and bitterness that you hold and will resent you for it.

You don’t need to have a relationship with her mother that extends beyond you helping her get on her feet. You will be better for it.

we have so many questions in life. so many things that bother us everyday. but there are things that are best left behind, i dont want to ask why they have to happen, and why they are happening especially to you. Being vain can not work in this kinds of scenario.
like how does one live with a parent who is addicted to drugs? you are a good student all your life, a good kid, you could have chosen to rebel instead you wanted to be someone. But still no matter how hard you tried things will not change. they will remain addicted and your hopes for a family is forever shattered. You are not even sure if you want a kid of your own in the future, for the fear that you will become like your parents.
there is a reason why marriage exists and people from all walks of life, chose to be weak.
and we have to suffer. we have to suffer fearing commitment ourselves because we haven’t seen an actual marriage that works. and we will try so desperately to cling to what we have just so that we will not become like them. even though we are so afraid. so afraid that we are already like them.

How does one live with a broken family, no matter how much you say to yourself, this is normal, this is fine. you know it never is. The moment you see your mother with a new guy every now and then, expecting you to love that stranger because he is giving your family money to survive. The moment she tells you, that you should have died, so that she can enjoy life again, she never wanted to become a mother..so why the heck was she allowed to have one. when obviously she will never know how to care. how do you listen to an advice, telling you that the only important thing in life is money. and so you go your life, wanting to become successful,earning serious bucks to impress them, following what they want, forgetting your existence..then waking up one day saying to yourself that advice about money is pure crap. because if that is the truth, why the heck are they sad, never contented with what they have…

And how about being humiliated by your step sisters everyday. They hate you because you are born in this world. YOu are the symbol of their families destruction. HOw…how is that any good. how can you be happy with that…but oh yes. you would eventually learn how to live that kind of life. would you be happy knowing you are the very evidence. why? why are they so freaking shallow.
did you choose to be born? do you want to destroy their family?

You will eventually live. Knowing that your own parents spent all of your family savings drinking alcohol, buying drugs. Blaming you why they no longer would be able to live a life they wanted. yes, i no longer want to ask.why ask. the universe has created your life. and you would wish sometimes that your life is normal. but it never will.
perhaps it never must. and i too am tired of crying and forcing the issue. or expecting. i am so tired.
You would have to deal with the fact that they would rather spend it on their drugs, rather than help you pay the rent. and throw you away once you fail to pay the rent after they have spent the money in their vices, shoes, jewelry…
and so you would have to move again. suffer the humiliation over and over again. and yes people do get numb. so numb, they dont care anymore what tomorrow will bring. bring it on! i am so tired of asking why.or blaming anybody. i just want to live. and smile every once in a while. for they shall not destroy my spirit and life. for they have no right.
why ask. why not just escape. build your own life. strive to become someone new. some people are just so tired of wishing their life was normal, or that their own mother would take care of them when they are weak and helpless. or that their own father will recognize them.
families. we dont have to bear much patience into making them work if they are already shattered. and yes i dont have to understand everything…

Yes i agreed, live in present and forget your past. In that situation i think your self confidence should be high. First you believe in yourself only then you will be able to avoid some sticky circumstances.
For this you also read a ebook or listen mp3 about law to success, One of my friend told me about this book, bought from http://www.lawtosuccess.com/ .

Of course success can mean a lot of things but in this situation we will say it means a good salary, good house and basically a financially stable life.

I often used to hear that the students who graduate honors in high school and graduate at the top of their class will end up earning the six figure salary and living the good life. I graduated high school in 1996, our valedictorian dropped out of Brown, a lot of the honors students are living average lives and some students made something of themselves while in high school they were C or B students. One guy ended up going to community college, transferring to an Ivy League school (Columbia) and finishing his graduate studies at Brown, he has a six figure salary. One guy who graduated 4th in our class is now a drunk who partied too much in college and barely graduated.

I am wondering, and I want your views, do you think that good grades and good SAT scores in high school determine success in life?

High school years for me were torturous. I was the guy who was sucker punched in the hall by the entire varsity football squad. Girls laughed at me and teachers would ask me why I couldn’t be more like my older brother or sister. At best, I was a C student.

After high school, I auditioned for and toured Europe with an orchestra, played for the President of the U.S. (twice), the Chancellor of Germany and the King and Queen of Sweden. I practiced medicine for 20 + years and retired. It took me 25 years to actually go to a high school reunion. I couldn’t have cared if those people lived or died. I went to that reunion and the football jocks had all married their cheerleaders and went no where. The ladies all sat back and listened with wanderlust in their eyes as their husbands sat back and talked about their glory days and got drunk on beer.

I own a business now and make more than enough money. Last year, I took a cut in pay of almost $15K and along with the annual profits, was able to hire two more. I have several degrees - for whatever THAT’s worth - I don’t use them per se to make money. I was an underachiever. Life is good and I’m living debt free.

I am so frustrated!

I’ve worked with so many work from home jobs and cant seem to find one that is actually legitimate. Do legitimate work from home jobs exist? If so, where can I find one?

Please help!

As a work at home mom, I’ve found that a lot of these programs are not legitimate… I have tried about five or six of these programs and have had decent success with only a couple. Some of them require you to pay money to learn…

But since when was there ever a business that didn’t need a small amount of start up money? Every business requires some kind of monetary investment.

I suggest trying the program below. I’ve stuck with it for about 7 months now and have had a ton of success with it. Be weary of other programs. Like I said, many of them are scams, but there are some legitimate ones out there too. Good luck Roger!

When I got together with my now Husband 6 years ago, he knew right from the beginning that I wanted to travel and/or live abroad. He said that he wanted that too.
6 years later, we have had some opportunities and the finances to do so but he always seems to make up an excuse as to why we can’t go abroad just yet.
I left my friends and family behind to go and live in a place that I really don’t like just for a job he wanted to do which would enable us to move abroad. This job has been over for a while and we had the finances but he still won’t do anything. I have researched everything, planned everything but still he won’t budge.
I’ve now got to the point where I am 33 years old. I can go and work and live abroad by myself tomorrow if i wanted to and so I am wondering is it wrong of me to think about leaving my Husband behind and going to live my life the way I want to?
I can spend another year in this crappy town, waiting and waiting whilst life passes me by, only to hear that he still can’t go abroad yet because there is some other excuse.
Do I deserve to enjoy life too or must I give up all of my dreams so that he can go and get his dreams fullfilled (he loves his work and he earns alot of money from it). I know that you are supposed to stick together in marriage but if one person keeps leading the other on by lying to them and promising them something will happen and then it doesnt then surely that person is entitled to be happy. I would hate to leave my husband but at the same time i can’t live my life waiting for something that may never happen, i need to go and make it happen myself as he isnt going to make it happen for me and i can’t live a life of regrets as then I will be bitter toward him.

I don’t get why it’s a big deal to leave your husband behind while you travel for awhile. Lots of married people take separate vacations sometimes. Not all, but it works great for lots of people. Being married doesn’t mean you’re joined at the hip if you don’t want to be. So go, travel! When you return, your husband will appreciate the happier, non-resentful you.

Warning: This is not fiction, this is something I wrote about myself a few years ago (like a mini autobiography) not because I think I’m interesting enough to warrant any sort of autobiography at all that anyone in their right mind would care about, but because I suck at coming up with new and creative ideas, and I wanted to just… write. I know it probably gets boring at times, but this was just practice for me, so let me know what you think and how my writing and tone can be improved.

The day I turned 18 presented itself as a crossroads for me. It was the first birthday where I ever responded affirmatively to the question, “Do you feel older than you did yesterday?” I was 6 months away from graduating high school, and my whole future was lying in pieces in front of me, waiting to be properly assembled. My biggest fear was that I would put it together the wrong way—this was the thought that had been keeping me up at night for as long as I could remember. I was never any good at puzzles.
I had an obsession with life—the unbiased, raw, organic experiences that make up our time on earth, given to us as vital gifts. And I was terrified at the thought of wasting even one opportunity. I clung to my naiveté with a steel grip, so that I could look back one day and call myself a damn fool. Because I knew I’d rather be a fool than sit back and watch things slip by in an effort to be cautious.
My focus was to do anything and everything, to have every experience I could before I died. And to do that, I knew that I had to preserve the anonymity of my self. With that anonymity, I thought I might get the time, the chance, and the freedom to do something truly amazing, without expectations to hinder my progress. No strings attached. And so became the theatrics, the way I existed those days—assuming role after role, imagining cameras and directors to create something so fake that it became absolutely real. I realized my talent for this when I discovered that, after 18 years, the people who were with me most were the ones who know me least. I was convincingly manipulative when it came to who I truly was as a person, molding the apparent essence of myself to fit whatever the situation called for, and I understood all too clearly that that was indisputably my only talent. The fact that I could perform this talent professionally only crossed my mind when searching through college options.
USC had the best Cinematic Arts program in the country, and probably even in the world. I was drawn to Los Angeles like a newborn to her mother, almost compelled to seek it out. It was something about the way the city lights turned the sky plum at night, and the way the landscape alone offered me everything I could ever want, and the way I could fade so easily into the masses of people just living their lives. Just a number, that’s what I wanted to be. One of millions, unnoticed and unnamed until I could do something that deserved recognition. If I failed to do that, I didn’t want acknowledgment of any kind. In my mind, acknowledgment was something a person should earn, not something that should be simply handed out.
Part of me felt that I had a responsibility to myself to take a chance and see what I could accomplish if I could find the opportunity to try. Acting was the most extreme form of self-expression I could think of, but it didn’t have to be revealing. I could reflect on what was inside myself while portraying someone completely different. The audience would be swept up into the story, if I did my job, and no one would take another look at the girl behind the character. I felt, rather egotistically, like this career path was created for me. It was what I felt I needed to do for myself. The more significant part of me, however, felt I had this responsibility to God, or some dominant power that people slap a name to. I considered it my duty to use what I was given by forces beyond my control… To take my single talent and to change someone’s life with it.

Thanks for any answers!
No, it doesn’t have a plot - that’s why I put the warning at the beginning It was just an exercise. I want to focus on improving my personal "voice" and description, not necessarily my ability to flesh out a plot just yet.

I liked it was very interesting! I enjoyed the way you also described things =)