Desperate for a family!!?

Sep

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hey… Well heres the thing. I will be 20 in March 09 and will be moving in with my fiancee of 6 years around June time 09. We both have good jobs. My partner is 23 and earns good money. We both want a baby quite desperatly but not just yet(we want to move in first). Do you reckon we should start trying next year or do u think its to early. We are in a extremely stable relationship and we dont go out drinking and partying because it does not appeal to us. I know some of you may say live your life while your young but we honestly are one of those couples that stay at home with a film and glass of wine, or maybe go to the cinema and we love going for meals to nice resturants. All i can think of is our little baby and it seems so long away. A family is really important to me and my fiancee. Do u think we are too young to start a family next year. i will be 21, him 24?xxx
Well we are engaged so i think that is showing commitment. My partner is wonderful. We will marry eventually when the time is right. i think getting engaged shows how much you want to be together, whereas marriage is a huge commitment (not that we would break it off) At the end of the day it is a certificate.

No, i don’t think you are too young.

From what you have read you would make good-strong parents providing your relationship is a stable one and you both are able to financially support yourselves and a baby.

If your ready and have thought about it and spoken about it for some time, then by all means go ahead.

Good Luck, i’m 19 and can’t wait to start a family.

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11 comments for “Desperate for a family!!?”

dhinapriscillalouise

Wait until you are married.
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September 21st, 2009 at 4:19 pm

Dr Asmed

No, i don’t think you are too young.

From what you have read you would make good-strong parents providing your relationship is a stable one and you both are able to financially support yourselves and a baby.

If your ready and have thought about it and spoken about it for some time, then by all means go ahead.

Good Luck, i’m 19 and can’t wait to start a family.
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September 21st, 2009 at 4:34 pm

Karen

My opinion - what’s the hurry? Say you have a baby, you mentioned stable relationship……….well, he still could walk away.
Nothing is for certain.
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September 21st, 2009 at 5:14 pm

kat

not if you really happy with him
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September 21st, 2009 at 5:58 pm

27/07/09 Baby Due :D

no your not too young, i dont believe its about age though, i believe its about it being the right time, your in a stable relationship and have both have good jobs, you will have your own home. it all seems pretty good to me if i was really desperate i would start trying now and everything else would have to work around that, insted of working around moving out kinda thing.
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September 21st, 2009 at 6:08 pm

Desiree

One of the greatest gifts you can give your child is having the same last name.
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September 21st, 2009 at 6:32 pm

Sue

The time when you feel mature enough to have kids varies. Nobody can give you the exact age when to have kids. I’m 22 and just had my first baby with my husband. If I were you, I would wait until the wedding takes place then why not? If you both feel ready and have the financial means to support your child…go ahead. I’m glad there are some more people who consider family life more important than anything, it’s rare unfortunately!

To Karen: the guy could walk away even if he was 30-35…a lot of people divorce after 10-15 years too. Not having kids because of worrying about being abandoned will not let you do what you want and will not prevent your partner from abandoning you when you finally opt for having a child. I would recommend that they get married first though. J H is right about the out of wedlock thing…no marriage, no real commitment.

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You are saying marriage is a huge commitment - well, you will see having a child is an even bigger commitment, your child will never quit being your child while your fiance can leave anytime. I’m not saying he would do that but I guess you can see the difference…in order to have a child not growing up in a broken family, you need the biggest possible commitment. If the time is not right for you to marry, it means you are not 100% ready.
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September 21st, 2009 at 7:12 pm

J h

A baby has a huge impact on your life. It forces you to be less selfish and puts strains on even the best of families. Your relationship takes a back seat to the child, and this can cause a problem. DO NOT get pregnant if until you are sure you can commit to each other. Personally, I would never consider having a child out of wedlock because if a man cannot commit to marriage, how can he possibly be relied on when it comes time to raise a child.
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Life with 2 kids is harder than you would think, no matter how much you want a family. Make sure you are really ready.

September 21st, 2009 at 8:01 pm

ThumperSki

No you guys will not be to young. It will be a good age to start a family. I was 20 when I got pregnant with my daughter and my boyfriend at the time now husband was 32. I had her when I was 21 and i love it so much. Now my husband and I are married and we are very happy. We are trying for a norther baby now. Just remember this don’t get married just because you have a baby.Good luck to you both.
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September 21st, 2009 at 8:43 pm

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Princess Ayesha

you are a lovely age, im 20 in march 09 as well, 19 at the moment and there is no right or wrong age, its when you want a baby and to start a family! me and my husband love to stay in also and we dont go out an awful lot unless its for a meal or the cinema occasionally! every couple is different. Go for it hun and good luck, all the best xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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September 21st, 2009 at 9:17 pm

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Katej in Saigon

so young, so many chances ahead and this amazing life is waiting for both of you to move on. Hanging out with each other first, experience things together and get married couple years later when u become more mature. Dont be so hurry to start a family.. You guys are so young and dont waste these time to worry about a family with lots of responsibilities and burden. Enjoy ur young age and suitable activities at this so young age rather than living in parent-hood. You stil have time to move on your career path, get more promotion, higher degree. Love will be the strength for you guys to progress together.
Cheers,
Katej
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September 21st, 2009 at 9:43 pm

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