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I’m 19 and am seriously considering what I want to do with my life. I am a perfectionist. I stress over every little detail when it comes to my work and want to turn it in perfect. This sometimes leads to procrastination and laziness(I don’t always feel like giving the 140% effort needed to make the work perfection). I also think I could have slight ADD…lol

I did very well in English/Writing classes through High School, but again, stressed over each essay and didn’t find them to be fun at all. Two of my HS English teachers thought I was far beyond everyone else in my writing. I recited a poem in one of these classes and the 56 year old teacher said it was the best she had heard in all of her years of teaching. She’d had me repeat the poem in front of the class and said beautiful was an understatement.

I enjoyed Algebra a lot. I had an A+ throughout Algebra 2. I found it to be like a puzzle; there was always an answer. There was no need to stress over a problem. I only felt a tad OCD when it came to writing neatly. If it wasn’t fun, it seemed a good way to pass the time. I also had an A+ in Psychology but this teacher awarded points just for being in class or for watching the day’s video. I found it interesting and I left feeling as though I had learned something. I loved my Anatomy and Physiology class in HS! (though it may have to do with the crush I had on the teacher). It was my favorite class and I found the workings of the body pretty interesting and easy to understand. I even purchased my own Anatomy and Physio book. I loved my Biology course in Fresh year of college(though it was with the best professor in the Uni and it was a non-majors Bio course). I love studying the workings of the body and considered going into medicine…but I dislike visiting hospitals(they’re scary) and I’m uneasy around sick people(mostly vomiting). I have always hated history and politics…I want nothing to do with either.

I am shy, but I am not quiet. Once I am comfortable, I am probably the loudest one in the group. I love to act silly and am the center of attention(again, only when I am comfortable) If I don’t get comfortable, I don’t do so well socially.

I love kids. I always spent time with the young children at family gatherings. I volunteered with 3-4 year old children once a week for a year while in HS and visited an after-school program at an Elementary School for a couple of days(I found I loved the 1-2 graders). I am currently pursuing an Elementary Ed major, though, as this post suggests, I’m not entirely positive it’s the career for me. I am interested in earning a little more money for leisure purposes and would love to live in or near a city. Teachers don’t earn much at all. I also fear that I will enter the classroom and my students or my supervisor would not like me at all or would not agree with the way I interact with/teach my students. I don’t do well performing speeches or presenting in front of an audience. But I feel more comfortable in front of children. I don’t think I would have a problem with a classroom of children but worry about having the principal or parents watching me. Also, with an Elementary Ed major, teaching is the only way to go. If teaching didn’t work out, I would be screwed.

My job will not be my number one priority in life! That is very important. I don’t want to work 12 hours a day. A family and my love(when I find one lol) will be my number one priority. I want to travel. I want a nice, large place to live. I am also one who wants all the new cool things that are out on the market…I can’t help it.

Wow. You sound exactly like me. I mean, right down to the classes you excelled at in high school, wanting to live in/near a city, and the uneasiness around sick people.

I am a teacher. Like you, I enjoy learning and thought it would be a great career for me. Instead, I am now looking for a way out of teaching. These are the reasons I would steer you away from teaching, given what you’ve said:

1. You are a perfectionist and often don’t like giving the 140% needed to do a perfect job. Teaching is NEVER perfect. Never. A supervisor can come into my classroom and tell me that I’ve done a perfect job, and then the next day it won’t go so well and she’ll have lists and lists of things for me to improve. This has been one of the hardest parts of being a perfectionist and a teacher at the same time. The work is NEVER done. You will never be satisfied with your work and you will always be sad that others seem to be doing a better job AND having a better work/life balance than you are. Plus, there are "too many masters" in teaching. That is to say, there are too many people to please….you have to please the administration, the students, the parents….and they all want different things from you.

2. You are right, teaching doesn’t make a lot of money, particularly for the work that you do.

3. If you are a perfectionist, it will be hard to deal with kids’ mistakes. I find that I am not nearly as patient of a person as I once was. I get a lot more frustrated than I ever imagined I would.

4. You don’t want to work 12 hours a day. As a teacher, you would.

I’m not saying that it would be a total mistake to do it, but I am telling you from my experience that I don’t recommend it if, as I think you are, you are like me. 1st and 2nd grade students may be different, though — I teach students in grades 5-8.

I don’t know about everyone else, but the current Dibiase gimmick isn’t working for me. Here’s an idea of how to truly get him over.

Firstly Dibiase turns face. The WWE could air a series of ’secretely’ taped video of Dibiase. Him donating money to an orphanage, giving a substantial money to the poor, helping in charity concerts and other things. Then next week on RAW his father comes out and tell Dibiase to explain himself for squandering his hard earned money .

Dibiase says, "Father, I was helping them. I just can’t stand to see them suffer while I’m living a grand life. Father, we’ve more than enough money to live like kings, so what’s the harm in sharing a bit of it?"

Ted Senior than looses it, and scolds him where did he get such a ridiculous idea. Then orders him to stop but Ted disobeys…Then Dibiase Senior books him in a series of handicap matches in hoping that his baby boy snaps out of it. But after everything Ted refuses and during all those weeks he has been continuously donating his money.

Then Dibiase Sr then has enough and disowns him. As he leaves Ted grabs a mike and says

"Fine! If you want to be as cold hearted as the gold in your bank, then FINE! I’ll earn my own money! And with that money, unlike you, I’ll make this world a better place."

Ted will struggle at first and then his meteoric rise shall begin after he wins the US championship in an upset victory. He’ll win matches and help the poor. He’ll gain respect from the faces and he’ll constantly feud with the heels that denounce the unfortunate.

As time will pass and as Ted will get richer and after winning the World Title it’ll be a momentous occasion, but as he gets more and more accolades he’ll get greedier and more corrupt. He’ll eventually turn on the people who supported him and then he’ll feud with a faces who’ll stand up for them. At the end of those lengthy feuds, Dibiase will realize the error of his ways, not in a corny way though, but slowly and eventually.And he’ll get back to helping the poor once again.

This storyline isn’t going to take place in months or weeks. This is a storyline the duration of which will be years.

So what do you think?
Chad, those are fantastic ideas. Yes Maryse could be the one who tapes what Ted is doing and she is extremely mad. And in the series of Handicap matches, they can bring in wrestlers for a one night only contract along with the current roster. Would be awesome if they bring Golberg.

And that’d be sick if Cody gets involved and Maryse runs off with him after Ted Dibiase is disowned.And by sick I mean awesome.

And yes the face he’d feud with will be his best friend who will help him during his feuds and will hold the Unified Tag titles together. His name is Kofi Kingston.

A few questions here. First, where is Maryse in all of this? Perhaps she is the one who had DiBiase, Jr. secretly taped as proof to offer to his father. Maryse is outraged that Ted is donating these generous sums of money to the needy, rather than spending it on extravagant gifts for her. Second, who are the guys that DiBiase, Sr. brings in to knock some sense in to his son? "The Million Dollar Man" has deep pockets and a lot of connections to the wrestling world, so maybe he could bring in outside help instead of relying solely on the current WWE roster. I could definitely see Cody Rhodes get involved in this, and even be the guy that Maryse runs off with. When DiBiase, Jr. wins his World Title and turns heel, who is the face that he goes to war with and eventually sides with? HBK, Randy Orton, John Cena, John Morrison? Could Ted, Sr. bring his other sons in to this feud?

You couldn’t possibly ever know under what circumstances a person comes to be in this situation, could you ?
Wouldn’t it be a better idea to make welfare more of a plan for the future than a way to become dependent on the system ?
In Connecticut, where I live, before you can even apply for assistance you must go classes in what’s called the "Jobs first" program. After which you must put in certain hours a week looking for a job and complete a certain number of applications as well. There are certain exemptions, but not many qualify. They also pay the majority of your daycare so you CAN go back to work, or go to school and get a degree. What alot of people don’t seem to understand is just how ridiculous day care cost are. It would cost me in excess of $500.00 a week, not to mention gas, lunch, and car repairs. Even if I am college educated, this is a HUGE chunk of money to shell out simply to be able to go to work and earn a living. Even if you’re making $12.00 an hour, which is not going to happen unless you have some sort of training or schooling, that’s only $480.00 a week. You’re still $20.00 short for daycare. Now you have to figure out how you’re going to pay your rent and eat and you say f*ck it, I give up. If you were to get a second job, you would never see your children.
For those of you who will say she should have thought of that before she got pregnant I say that most of us usually expect the men to stick around but they just don’t always do that, not all women intend on raising their children alone you know ? Then the women end up paying 100% of their income to take care of their children while the men are giving up only (in CT) up to 28% of theirs. How does that work ? I myself am not on welfare, but my husband died of cancer 3+ years ago he was 41 and our daughters were only 2 & 3. Do you think I was planning on being alone with 2 children ? No, I was not, nor was I prepared. Thank goodness for Social Security or we would have been homeless and starving to trying to get help while the rich people were trying to keep it from us. Would we have been asking for handouts as well ? Could you look my daughters in the eye and tell them it’s their mothers fault they can’t eat because she should have just ran out and gotten a job asap ? I certainly hope not.
You say we all could work harder in school, get a scholarship and go to college just like you. Is that truly a reality ? I wonder if it were 90% of kids whole work hard their entire lives to do their very best because they want to do something with their lives, would there really be enough scholarships to send them all ? How many would have to be turned away after such a struggle ? The point is that the ratio of students to the amount of scholarships given each year is preposterous. Where would the government get that money from ? Maybe if we weren’t dropping billions and billions into Iraq we could manage to concentrate on our own people and their future well-being, instead of taking it away from struggling mothers . They are either going to need help with the cost of living, help with daycare, or help with college, so you are going to need to give it up one way or the other. I am sorry, but the reality is that it’s just not possible for some people to make ends meet with all we need to live minimally comfortably.
I realize welfare fraud is rampant, ruining it for those truly in need. Maybe we should concentrate on those people instead.
Let me also just say that there ARE no jobs to be had for alot of people, but thank goodness for the uneducated, or who would be making your latte’s for you, mowing your lawn, cleaning your houses, etc…..
Philip: I don’t live in Virginia, I live in Connecticut, the highest per capita state in the country, and no, I’m not willing to move to afford daycare. It should be made more affordable instead. Also most people have more than one child in daycare, so multiply your 150.00 by 3 and do the math.
Not everyone HAS family. You people seem to think that we all have exactly the same resources and opportunities when it’s just not a reality.

Agreed. And the bigger problem is the lack of education a lot of the people born into welfare are getting about how to live normal and productive lives apart from the system. All that they’ve seen in a check coming from the government. They aren’t encouraged to get jobs in a lot of cases, until they turn 18. At that point, they’ve seen nothing but people working the system so that they never have to get a job! Their cousin working the fryer at McDonald’s is the responsible one from their family that "made it". We need to spend the money on similar programs to the one that you write about having in Conn. If people know how to get jobs, and more importantly that they have to have a job, then they are more likely to not only get out of the system, but to be an example to those around them of how to get out of the system.

So, I’m 13 going to high school this year in August. I want to open my own businesses and I want to invest in things like the stock market. I’m already earning money online use stuff like Google Adsense and ordering stuff online, getting checks in the mail things like that. But I want to do more, and I want to start while I’m young. Because when I’m eighteen, I’m planning to move to New York, New York and live in a loft, property of my own. I don’t want to rent anything and I really am striving to be financially empowered. The thing is, since I’m so young, people really don’t listen to me. I mean, my parents do and that’s great and all but adults need to open their minds to the young because we have really good ideas. They do say that we are the future, but yet, some of them won’t even listen to us. My brother is 17, my other brother’s are 20 and 30. I told my 17-year-old brother my plan for the near future and all he said was "I said the same thing when I was your age". He acts like he’s been there, done that. He’s only 17. He’s not as consistent as I am. I want to go places, I wanna see the world! He’s very lazy, laid back - which is a good thing in some cases but the thing is I want to go places and I KNOW I can go places. I just want to start now and I need to know how the stock market works and I want to open up my own business and be able to live a luxury life, be financially empowered and NOT put my parents in a nursing-home. So…..if you’re an adult, and you’ve listened to me and thought through your answer please help me out
Props to you for having determination. You sound like me when i was young. Just make sure you work hard and go to a GOOD school. Top 50 school in the nation at least. Make sure you read read read. If you want to learn about the stock market…pick up a book and learn yourself.

I am 13(as you can see above) and I want to have a baby.

Don’t tell me I’m not ready, because I am.

I have enough money to raise it for about four years even if it has a disability and needs more care(I have been babysitting for three years and been saving every penny) and while using that money I will be earning more.

My parents said that if I ever had a baby while still living in their house they would help take care of it.

I won’t be "throwing my life away" as I never do anything with friends unless they come over( which rarely happens).

I am already taking college classes, so I will be able to get a job later in life to support the child.

I know how to take care of it as I have been babysitting for children 3 and under for three years.

I have picked out everything the baby will need for the first year of its life (the total comes up to 861.40)

I know that I will have to wake up in the middle of the night multiple times as I have taken care of my friends baby for 1 month when she was in the hospital.

I have read multiple articles on how to care for the baby and the risks of having it at my age.

I have read about being pregnant and how tired and cranky it makes you.

The only thing I am not sure about is how the pregnancy is. Please don’t tell me I am not ready or that I should not do this because you don’t know me. I am 100% ready for this baby.

My only questions are:

1. What is it like to be pregnant?
2. How do you sleep while pregnant(what position)
3. What do you eat?
4. How often do you have to go to the doctor/
5. What is it like going into labor?
6. What do the contractions feel like?
7. How can I tell my parents I am pregnant?
8. How long do you stay in the hospital after the baby is born?

Thank you(:
And please, give as long as an answer as you can with as much detail, this is very important to me.
the 861.40 was the FURNITURE!! I understand that you misread, but it was my fault for not putting enough detail. I apologize. I know it will cost very much for the baby, but I have been babysitting( I receive about 200 every month) I have holiday money( I have a small family and most of my relatives are rather wealthy and I get about 300 every holiday and about 500 on my birthday) I have a debit care with over 1000 on it, and I plan on babysitting until the baby comes, if I decide to have it. I am in high school and will be graduating in about three years. Then I will be in college for about a year, so I will be done with school at the age of 17. At 16 I will get a job, it won’t be the best job but it will be a salary. When I graduate I will get a better job. As for the care of my child while I am attending classes, my school has a program where the nurse will take care of your children at the school while you are in class as long as you have all B’s or above, I have an all A average.
And as for the risks thing, I was just saying that I understood that there were risks. And yes, I hav gone through puberty(when I was 10 I got my menstrual cycle).

Also, I don’t really have a life as a teenage at school. I have three friends, nobody else really talks to me except for the male population at the school. I do not intend to brag or anything, but I am considered quite pretty.

What about high school? what happens after the 4 years? any job you get without an education is going to be low income. No thirteen year old, no matter how much they may think otherwise, is ready to have a baby.

This might seem like a joke to you guys, but think about it.

Kobe Bryant: Generally speaking, he most likely had a great childhood. Was a star athlete during his high school years. Won multiple championships with the Laker organization while being in the spotlight. Married a beautiful and gorgeous woman. Earned numerous awards and accolades for his basketball skills and talent. King of Los Angeles and has plenty of money from his endorsements and basketball contracts. However, he was accused of rape and cheating on his wife (in which the cheating was true). Not so sure about the rape, but his image was torn down because of it. Fortunately, he just recently won an NBA championship and NBA finals MVP award.

Mike Tyson: From what I’ve read and heard about, his childhood seemed very brutal and dark. Been arrested many times. Was made fun of for his "lisp" voice and would express extreme anger/rage because of it. Had a natural talent for the sport of Boxing. Had a great start into his boxing career by knocking out opponents in the first round and having an undefeated record at a young age. Then his mentor/father figure, Cus passes away. Became the youngest heavyweight champion of all time. He married Robin Givens, but seemed like a golddigger. Was charged with rape and went to prison for it (unlike Kobe). Earned nearly 300,000,000 from various endorsements and fights but squandered nearly all of it. His image is perceived as a comical relief as the man who "eat ears." Fortunately, he recently trimmed off some weight and looks thinner than his pot belly physique.

Truly, I think most people would want to live Kobe Bryant’s life. However, my counter-argument for that is that I think Tyson is humble and lives life for what it is. According to The View, he lives paycheck to paycheck but he seems very happy. Sure, his life experiences must suck and would drain out a man, but I’m sure it made him a very strong man spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally. He lost his finances, image, and success to the non-boxing world, but he seems very optimistic and just living life. In the other side of things, Kobe doesn’t seem like a humble person. He seems like a person who would be destroyed internally if he lost his finances, image, etc. But at the same time, this is based on assumption because I don’t know him. So who would you choose?

I would rather be Shaq. Just to be 7 feet tall.

I have spent a lot of my life trying to be a "Nice" person, and I guess thinking that would "earn" something for me.

I spend a lot of time being kind and giving energy to other people — taking them on their terms, instead of on my terms (and probably not even knowing what my terms are).

I think I get taken advantage of a lot, and get made into a victim by people who may not even realize they are doing it (and of course some who do). Further, I’m pretty sure I "willingly" take on the victim role and "teach" people to treat me this way.

Well, I’m pretty fed up with it. I’m tired of "handling" my Dad’s volatility so that we have peaceful conversations, while neglecting my own needs.
I’m tired of friending people for no real reason other than not to hurt their feelings or because of some sick craving I have for attention from anybody, no matter how much it may not be super healthy.
I’m tired of trying to be tolerant, and PC, and accepting of other people’s flaws and eccentricities when I am rarely afforded the same in return.

Recently I posted something very grave on my facebook wall about a very ill parent, and the LACK of response was stunning. So why are these people on my facebook??? At this point, if you don’t have the time, courtesy, or interest to look at my infrequent posts, and comment on something so grave, then I don’t want to spend energy on you anymore.

I’m already super lonely and pretty much an outcast, so I don’t think I will be losing much by:
deciding to live life on MY TERMS now. Telling people what I really think. Calling out poor behavior. Taking up for myself and not accepting less, even if it may seem counterintuitive right now.

The thing is, I have years and years of hurt feelings and instances of mistreatment buried in my psyche. How do I learn to let this anger out slowly so that I don’t break everything in my house? How do I learn to forgive people who don’t deserve forgiveness? How do I learn to teach people to treat me with respect when I don’t even know? How do I learn healthy peer behavior coming from a long history of dysfunction?

It sounds to me, from the personality traits you are describing and the years and years of hurt feelings and you efforts to appease a volatile father that you might well be an ACON (Adult Child of a Narcissistic Parent.)

There is a list of Narcissistic Traits at this link:

http://www.cosmicwalk.co.za/narcissistic-traits.html#

It might be an idea to see how many of these traits fit to dear old dad.

Parents with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) groom their children to put their (the parent’s) needs first and the child’s own needs last. This trait of putting ones own needs last goes on into other relationships, and into adulthood so ACON’s are easily re victimized by bosses, ‘friends’ and relationship partners. ACONs also have issues with saying ‘No’ and drawing clear personal boundaries.

You should indeed be living life on your terms. It sounds as if you have done far too much of living it on other peoples’ terms.

I would suggest that if you haven’t already done so you have counselling related to self esteem and boundary issues.

If you think your father has NPD get support. There is a peer support group for Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents on the Yahoo Boards. I would also suggest reading the blog ‘Narcissists Suck’ which you can find with a Google. Both places will have advice on self help.

You do sound like an ACON to me (I am one, my father has NPD) and ACONs have had so little healthy attention from their parents in their formative years that they do indeed crave attention from anyone, and often get it in the wrong ways and get taken advantage of. We are also very slow to recognize, and very tolerant of bad behaviour in others, having grown up with non stop bad behaviour in our parents.

I thought it worth mentioning this to you in case it applies to you. I rather suspect it might.

Best wishes

Michael

First of all.. i warn you that its a long story and also that im not native speaker so my story might sound weird or without sense, in that case i apologize!! …

Ok here’s how everything started….

A year and 5 months ago i met this awesome guy, we got along pretty easily, like if we knew each other from long time the only problem was that he was "married", partnered for 6 yrs if im not wrong! but the situation between them wasn’t the best… days after we met they broke up and we started a relationship but there was a lil problem! he lives 60 miles away, and was working full time job, I on the contrary was working full time and going to college part time at night!,so he knew i wasnt going to be able to be with him as much as we would love to! but he didnt mind at that time. time passed, we were meeting like twice or once a month mostly due my lack of free time, but we kept in contact by phone and texts i mean we text each other all days for the entire time of our relationship and even talked every single night ( well most of them, cause some times we had some discussions and we didnt talk for few days) but most of the times we were happy, at least I think we were, but today we had a fight in which i overreacted. I started the fight because he didnt want to cuddle, i mean, Friday night we didnt had any sex…. every time i wanted to start something he said the room was hot n that he needed space, so finally i gave up so we went to sleep, the next morning we were watching tv at the living room, while i was trying to cuddle with him, kissing him, getting on top of him he told me that we cannot be always been kissing!… i mean come on! that was the first morning we spent together in months, I didn’t went to work because i wanted to spend some time with him but according to him he just wanted to chill… so the day passed i drove back to my place and he texted me that he was sorry and felt like sh*t, but suddenly he opened himself and "texted" me;" im Miserable… work isnt fun anymore and that was all i had besides you I think about my old life a lot even though it wasnt that great…But i cant have it back even if it was possible… i dont know what to do" …. he claimed to be working a lot and and not traveling a lot as he used to do with his ex… i feel like sh*t cause i know work isnt fun, but again i cant take any vacations because i lived paycheck to paycheck i mean im not earning as much as he does, we are complete financial opposites… and also because i dont have vacations, I take classes all year long due im not a full time student im trying to take the most advantage of time as i can! so i cannot take any vacations until i graduate… he knew that… i explained how my life was and he didnt mind! … now its bothering him that we cannot travel anywhere! so i broke up with him few hrs ago! and i feel like sh*t.. i do really love him but i believe he deserved someone who can be with him anytime… not a guy like me who barely have time for myself … so what should i do!? give up my school and job to live with him and be happy for a few months? or forget about him and concentrate on my school?…

The problem is because you two don’t try to make compromises with each other. He wants to travel, you can’t. You want to cuddle, he resists because of not having able to do what he loves to do. If only you could take off a day or two to go somewhere nearby with him to at least give him that feeling of traveling. If only he tries to put himself in your shoes and understand your situation, he would know how you feel. A relationship is essentially compromises. Without compromises between the two, a lot of stuff would not work out. You’ve tried your best to take out time to be with him but things just didn’t work out. I think your decision to break up is a right choice as of the moment. You are too busy with your life to keep a 60 miles relationship going. If that relationship was to be close by, I would have recommended to try work things out the second time but eh, it’s too far. Let this one go and just concentrate on your life for now, and hopefully in the next relationship, things will be better since you’ve just learned a lesson.

Once a man is divorced, should he let his ex remain homeless? (She was evicted).?
1. I make over 100K working very hard…she flat out told me that it wasn’t enough.

2. I came to this country and worked here for two years all the while paying for our home there and what would be our new home here, all the while with two pairs of socks and boxers for myself, working overtime and studying at university and paying for her education at the same time, and…she couldn’t talk to me even 15 minutes on Sunday’s when I had time to call…I was also faithfull the entire time.

3. When she comes here with my daughter, she tells me that the home I got was too old.

4. I had stayed in that marriage the entire time because I love my daughter so much, that I didn’t want to take her mommy away from her (I’m smart and could have done it) but was trying to do the right thing by both of them.

5. I finally made up my mind to divorce and offered 50% custody and she told me that I would be the one visiting and that she wanted alimony…she has never payed for, worked or needed anything while I was with her.

Now this woman who wanted to take my little girl from me, take the money that I have earned and didn’t even have 15 minutes a week to spend on the phone with her faithful husband who was in here in this country at her request wants me to help her with money because she is sleeping in her car…

What would you do? I now completely see her as an opponent and am utterly without pity…women? men? What should I do?

and when I stated the 50% about custody, she wanted "full" custody and that I could see her on weekends.

I documented everything for the course of a year and won full custody, I also saw too it that she developed immigration issues by refusing to pay for temporary to permanent resident status $1410.00.

And thank you because I really am vexed about this and I will let you decide. It is what is fair. She is her mother, but I harbour no pity for her any longer other than she gave me my little girl who is to me, the most wonderful thing that I have ever found in this world. Again, I’m sorry to trouble you with my problems.

Lindernator, first off, it’s my life, I’m living it and it’s real. Don’t buy it? I don’t care.

Read my posts? Really? You and how many thousands of other people?

Men vs Women posts? And who wouldn’t after being treated this way? They’re actually for fairness posts, but you would describe them that way…I’ve already seen what she tried to do to me and if you think I’m bitter, lady, I haven’t even begun.

No-one is that hatefull and onesided? Really, just like those pedophile rapist murdering bastards that snuggle up to children with all the charm of a guilded lily?

Why get engaged? I loved her so much that in Russia we have closed cities and areas that are guarded with mines and dogs and I told her that I would walk across if that is what I had to do to be with her. You have no f**king idea how much I loved her, only to be thought of as a means to a better life. Nothing more than a paycheck…trash, that is what I meant to her, and if you think for one second that after…

loving her that much and working that hard and sacrificing two years of not being with my little girl (who slept with on my chest, every night for the first two months after she was born), just to come to this f**king country at her behest, to "make more money over there than you will here", and I’m not a little bitter…you have nooooo idea.

I hope that I prevent men AND women from suffering like this…laying on my f**king floor wanting to cry and die, but having to remain strong for my darling Katya….. I don’t have the words…think whatever the f**k you want.

The best thing that a man can do for his child is to love her mother. Show her some compassion without letting her take advantage of you. Give her a place to stay. The compassion you show her will teach your daughter things that she can never learn in books.

You are hurting your daughter by being so bitter towards her mother. the day will come when your daughter realizes the anger and bitterness that you hold and will resent you for it.

You don’t need to have a relationship with her mother that extends beyond you helping her get on her feet. You will be better for it.